By CARLEY RONEY, Scripps Howard News Service

Q: After getting a hair-and-makeup trial, I think I'd be happier doing the makeup myself. The problem is, I still want the salon to do my hair. Is it rude to not schedule wedding-day makeup, too?

Q: I invited my friend and her boyfriend (by name on the invite), but they recently broke up. Now she wants to bring a girl I don't like. Can I tell her no?

A: Because you worded the invitation correctly by having her boyfriend's name on the envelope (rather than ''and guest''), you have every right to say no.

Q: I just found out that my mom is throwing us a surprise engagement party. I'm really excited, but I also heard she's not paying for dinner or drinks -- guests have to pay. What should I do?

Q: I was the maid of honor in a friend's wedding, and now that I'm getting married, I think she expects to be mine, but she's not my first choice. Am I obligated?

Q: We're keeping our wedding-guest list very small. Is it rude if we invite my friend but not her husband?

A.: In a word, yes. We could (maybe) let it go if the couple weren't married, but husbands and wives should always be invited as a couple or not at all.

Q: I've been so stressed with all the things I have to do -- book a wedding venue, find vendors, send out invitations -- that I'm considering hiring a day-of coordinator. I'm not sure we have room in our budget. What are my options?

Q. Should we send thank-you cards to guests who came to our wedding but didn't give us cards or gifts?

A. All attendees deserve a handwritten thank-you note -- regardless of whether they gave you a gift.

Q. I've had my eye on blue shoes for my wedding, but blue isn't one of my colors. Do I have to wear shoes to match?

Q: We want to have a small destination wedding, followed by a bigger at-home reception. Is it OK to invite fewer guests to the DW? I've heard that you should invite everyone to both.

Q: I definitely don't want my fiance to see me in the dress on the day-of, but what about before that?

A: It's really your choice. There's no etiquette rule in the books for this, so go with your gut. If you're superstitious, keep him clear. But if you want his opinion on the dress, let him in on the decision-making process