ShareThisConfidence is within us all, but sometimes, when the world is throwing you constant curveballs, it can get lost. Remember these components of confidence the next time you are feeling less of it than you might like.
C -- Clarity. Knowing that you know what is right deep inside yourself is truly empowering. Check in with both mind and emotions, and learn to trust your feelings. Seeing where you want to go is imperative to getting there.
O -- Openness. Being open to new ideas when you are looking to solve a problem is what true learning is all about. Believe in your own resources, as well as those of people you trust.
N -- Nobility. Knowing that you are a person of honor keeps you on a purposeful and positive path. When you stand with integrity and you stand with confidence. It can't be avoided.
F -- Foundation. When you have a good foundation, you can create anything. Learn the basics and you can go wherever you like. There is nothing wrong with reviewing, relearning or rehearsing to make your foundation as strong as possible.
I -- Intelligence. Having the mental capital to invest in your ideas, the hard work ahead or your interpersonal relationships gives you a leg up on those who do not. Trust that you have the brains to make your life work.
D -- Dependability. Knowing you can count on those you love, those who are on your team and, perhaps most importantly, yourself is one of the most valuable tools you can have to get through a rough patch or create something new in your life.
E -- Experience. Having been there (and gotten the T-shirt) lets you know that you can go there again and again. Even if it has been years, most things in life are like riding a bike. You may be a little unsteady when you first try again, but the ability returns quickly.
N -- Necessity. Where would we be without the mother of invention? Finding a need and filling it is one of the best ways to make yourself indispensable. In addition, being needed is one of the greatest motivators. Also remember that the father of invention is perspiration. Be prepared to work for your desires.
C -- Courage. Courage is not the absence of fear; it is about moving through fear to reach your goals, despite your anxieties. Facing challenges with the understanding that you have the emotional mettle to withstand the difficulties that may be around the corner is a building block of confidence.
E -- Education. Knowledge is power. If you get educated and really learn what you are taught, no human being can throw you off-track, because your connection to what you know is solid.
Use these tools to help you build confidence; just pick one and think about it. You may find that you already have what you're looking for.
(Dr. Barton Goldsmith, a marriage and family therapist in Westlake Village, Calif., is the author of "Emotional Fitness for Couples."E-mail him at Barton(at)BartonGoldsmith.com)
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