Q: A good friend has asked me to the best man at his wedding. I agreed to do it, but don't have a clue what to do besides throw him a bachelor party and hold the rings on the wedding day. Is there anything else I should know?A: As someone who's been a best man four times, I can shed some light on this subject.Your chief assignment is to be there for your buddy.That means shielding him from drama on the big day and the night before. Hold his cell phone the day of the wedding, answer it and filter out frivolous calls. Some people won't like you for running interference, but your first loyalty is to the groom and his bride.On the big day, help make sure the groomsmen are doing what they're supposed to do, when they're supposed to do it. You also may have to talk some courage back into the groom if he gets cold feet.Traditionally, it's your responsibility to organize the bachelor party. Consult with the groom to ascertain any special requests. It's OK to ask the other groomsmen and guests to chip in to pay for the gathering, but don't discuss or handle money transactions in the groom's presence.The groom may want you to hold on to the wedding ring until the point in the ceremony when he presents it to his bride. Also, carry a cloth handkerchief -- clean, pressed and white -- in your pocket in case the groom needs it.(Send questions to fashion(at)post-gazette.com.)(Distributed by Scripps Howard News Service, www.scrippsnews.com.)


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