Who sits where at the reception

Q: Our parents really want us to sit with them at the wedding reception, but we'd rather sit with our friends. Is it horribly rude to tell our parents that?A: If it's important to you to sit with your wedding party, tactfully but firmly inform your parents of that. Soften the blow by telling them that you'll place their table right next to yours.Plan to sit with them at the rehearsal dinner (which is customary anyway), where you can celebrate in a more intimate setting.But honestly, whom you choose to sit with at your reception probably doesn't matter quite as much as you think it does. You'll inevitably wind up table-hopping, guests will approach to chat with you and congratulate you, and if you start the dance music before the end of the meal, you'll probably spend more time up on your feet than in your seat.(Carley Roney, co-founder and editor in chief of The Knot, the nation's leading wedding resource, advises millions of brides on modern wedding etiquette at www.theknot.com.)(Distributed by Scripps Howard News Service, http://www.scrippsnews.com)