Bride-to-be needs to let others plan bachelorette party

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Q: Is it OK to suggest specific plans for my bachelorette party?A: Although it's understandable that you're in micromanaging mode as a bride-to-be, you'll have to set aside any control-freak tendencies when it comes to your bachelorette party (and your shower, for that matter).Since others are organizing this event in your honor, giving them precise instructions would be rude. That said, giving a little input benefits everyone (they want you to have a good time, after all).Give general suggestions ("I think a sedate dinner would be more fun for everybody than a bar crawl"), not specific demands ("I'd like to have drinks at that new champagne bar followed by a 9 p.m. reservation at Osteria Romana").Keep in mind that the "who" part of the bachelorette night -- all your favorite girls together --is way more important than the "what," "when" and "where."(Carley Roney, co-founder and editor in chief of The Knot, the nation's leading wedding resource, advises millions of brides on modern wedding etiquette at www.theknot.com.)(Distributed by Scripps Howard News Service, http://www.scrippsnews.com)