ShareThisQ: We're keeping our wedding-guest list very small. Is it rude if we invite my friend but not her husband?
A.: In a word, yes. We could (maybe) let it go if the couple weren't married, but husbands and wives should always be invited as a couple or not at all.
Put yourself in her shoes: If you were invited to a friend's wedding without your husband, wouldn't you be upset? Try to make room in your budget for both your friend and her husband, or leave them off the guest list altogether. Just explain that you're having an intimate wedding with family and very close friends. She should understand.
(Carley Roney, co-founder and editor-in-chief of The Knot, the nation's leading wedding resource, advises millions of brides on modern wedding etiquette at www.theknot.com. Got more questions? Visit www.theknot.com/askcarley for 800-plus answers on all things wedding.)
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