ShareThisQ: We want to have a small destination wedding, followed by a bigger at-home reception. Is it OK to invite fewer guests to the DW? I've heard that you should invite everyone to both.
A: You definitely don't need to invite everyone to both. The fact that you're even having a party at home afterward should be enough to settle any hurt feelings. In fact, most people will be relieved (no offense) not to be on the guest list to a destination wedding, because they tend to cost guests a lot.
The real trick here is the shower; you should invite everyone you plan on inviting to the shower to the at-home reception as well.
(Carley Roney, co-founder and editor-in-chief of The Knot, the nation's leading wedding resource, advises millions of brides on modern wedding etiquette at www.theknot.com. Got more questions? Visit www.theknot.com/askcarley for 800-plus answers on all things wedding.)
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