Q: I want to reserve five tables for certain guests and let everyone else choose where they sit. My mom insists on making a seating chart. Who's right?
A: We have to side with your mom on this one. Reserving tables for select guests will actually cause you more stress -- the people you leave off the ''special'' tables may take offense.
The bigger issue: It'll be a mess when your family and friends and your fiance's family and friends all have to decide where to sit among each other. You don't want your groom's frat brothers winding up at the same table as your mom's church group!
Creating a seating chart doesn't have to make you want to pull your hair out. It can all come together quickly if you're organized. Sort your guests based on whose family or friend they are, which takes care of mostly everything up to the who-can't-sit-next-to-whom debate.
(Carley Roney, co-founder and editor in chief of The Knot, the nation's leading wedding resource, advises millions of brides on modern wedding etiquette at www.theknot.com.)
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